You deserve love now. Not once you lose weight. Not once you accomplish that thing. Not once you move. Not once you get on medication. Not once you start therapy. Not once you get that job. Not once you're more like them. Now. You don't have to earn the right to be loved. You deserve it right now, and always have.
Do the work that is at hand. Do not worry about the 10 year plan on a day to day basis - yes, have a general idea at hand, a place where you want to be, and principles to follow. A purpose. But on a daily basis? Do the work. Do it to the best of your ability. Be world-class at this, no matter how humble the task might be. Take opportunities when they come, remain flexible. Focus, maintain good habits, try to learn, try to reflect. Get enough sleep. Eat good food. Move.
they hate me for my girlish whimsy and for my pathological degree of avoidant behavior